When we think of the holidays we gravitate to the happy side of the festivities. What do you do when you come across the person that is unhappy? Do you turn away and think I don’t want any part of that dark person? Is not unhappiness part of the holidays too?
I have been told the key to unhappiness is compassion. To be dark and moody is a burden, being dark and moody during the holidays is even more of a burden because it is not expected. There is pressure this time of the year to delight in all things.
Being compassionate to those that are struggling is a test of will and sometimes character, keep in mind it may be a beautiful opportunity to make a difference in someone’s life.
Compassion does not mean having a pity party; it could mean a hug or kind word. Webster defines compassionate as sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.
One way to develop compassion is to remember someone being compassionate to us during a time we were struggling through the pain of loss, fear, rejection, or one of life’s trials. Recalling that pain in ourselves will help make it easier for us to find the strength to connect to that person’s suffering and on some level help them bear that suffering.