Thursday, August 19, 2010

What would I say to my 17 year old self?


A request went out from our local paper the Palm Beach Post requesting ideas on what you would say to yourself at graduation. My friend Clark was interested to hear what I had to say I and I thought some of you might like to read it too.

What would I say to my 17 year old self?

Hold on girl its going to be an interesting ride I don’t want you to miss a thing.

My dream at 17, when adults were asking me, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” is the same today, 38 years later. The answer is happy. I have pursued this goal with gusto. Don’t get me wrong there were plenty of days my head hit the pillow and I was not happy. Most days, I had a smug little smile on my face when I would fade away into sleep.

You don’t know this today but the friends you make in High School will still be a part of your life almost four decades later, We will go our separate ways and reunite life will change us. We will experience love, death, divorce, the joys of grandchildren, cancer, but our love for each other will grow as the days go by.

Loosing Dad at 21 will be devastating. I wish I could offer you the faith I have in God today. This will be a long process. You are going to be lost don’t worry you will not forget him.

I would caution you to keep in touch with friends and family. Back then we had to write letters the gratification was not so instant. But, I could always write Grandma Vic and she would write back with a $20.00 bill enclosed.

All of those golden retrievers taught me lessons about being real and happy no human could.
I am not so sure I would change anything about the past because it is what got me to where I am today. If I could change one thing I would have been more serious about my education. It is much more difficult to study and learn at 55 than 20.

I learned helping someone else is one of the greatest joys and rewards life has to offer.

Paying it Forward it the pay back.

Keep the women in your life close when all else fails they will be there to dust you off and point you back out into the world.

Marriage is wonderful but if it fails it does not means you have failed.

If you sleep in the snow you will not freeze to death.

When you wake up and there is a buffalo outside of your tent don’t run to the car, walking is a better choice.

If the band you are running the light show for wants to go to Whitehorse Yukon go it’s a wonderful trip.

I would be able to tell myself that motorcycle gang you are going to hitch a ride with in the 70’s looked a lot tougher than they really were, so don’t worry so much, it will turn out to be a great time.

On your first trip to England watch out for the Jaguar Sunday morning in London you are closer than you think.

Hold on the next 38 years are going to go by in the blink of an eye. Don’t miss anything and hold your joy close to your heart.

Love,
Your joyful older self

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